If we're not conscious, we're not free. I remember at the end of my first level of training, I said, "I've spent the past two weeks feeling like my problems are nothing compared to others". My teacher, Myrna, said, "That is a classic feeling of being in a double bind." We've been giving parts of ourselves away to others from our earliest days of development so we can stay in the family. This isn't something a baby or a child has the ability to think through. These are the feelings that get embedded into the limbic part our nervous system. These are places we have knee jerk reactions as we get older.