Updated: Dec 23, 2021
How can trust, safety or boundaries not be affected by trauma? Trauma is described by Bill O'Hanlen (MS.) as "something that overwhelms people in their resources".
If something happened to us and we didn't have enough support from another person to know we were safe and that we could get through it then, we will be traumatized by it. That can mean different things for different people.
For example, a person might have a hard time trusting the mechanics of their vehicle if they were on a ride at the fair, the mechanisms on the ride broke and the chair was left dangling in mid air. They might always feel an underlying threat of, are the tires on the car safe, do the brakes work or can I trust the windshield wipers won't fly off in a rainstorm on the highway? A person might have the same kind of fears if they had gotten stuck in an elevator for a length of time. This person might have difficulty trusting that is safe to go in a vehicle, light a barbecue or use power tools or even trust another person because they put their confidence in their suggestion to go on the ride in the first place. The world has become unsafe that person.
Pre and Perinatal influences
The next important thing to understand about this dynamic of trauma is how some people seem to deal with experiences more effectively than others. The person that has better coping mechanisms may well have had an easier pre and peri natal experience. Whatever happens to us in our gestational period, our birth and the first seven years of life replays itself every day. For more on this you can watch this short video on the five stages of the birth sequence to help understand how our earliest days are imprinted right into the limbic part of our nervous system. We don't go anywhere without this history.
You can watch the video by going to the 'healing' tab and looking under 'Pre and Perinatal' healing. Alternatively, you can cut and paste this link into your browser.