Making space in our family system with forgiveness or acceptance

Acceptance in human psychology is a person's assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it. (Wikepedia)
for·gave, for·giv·en, for·giv·ing.
to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
Does it feel better to accept or forgive? Which feels more spacious in your body? Which will let you hold yourself steady?