Thinking of others' well being is a kind thing to do but to be fair, we can't always know what will trigger a pain response in another person. That means that we can be set off by other people, often unintentionally. People are going around crashing into each others' neuro-biological responses every day.
The question is, how can we support ourselves when we are taken off guard? How can we hold ourselves steady when some part of our neurobiology has been triggered? It's natural to want to lash out with harsh words, break down into tears, give in to please the other person or freeze and not have any action at all. These behaviours are all part of our human condition.
My work helps people discover what their deep imprinting is. It might be from their own birth experience and it might also come from previous generations. We can break challenging experiences down bit by bit and help your nervous system develop new neural pathways, ones that will let you be you! It's always much better to be ourselves because everyone else is already taken! It can be helpful to do this with another supportive person that understands how easy it is to be derailed by even a simple comment or action from another person.
Below is an example that I have quoted from Emotives® of how complex this dynamic can be.
How Does Neurobiology Affect Behavior?
Each region of the brain affects a different area of behavior, and neurobiology aims to understand these behaviors and the connection to different parts of the brain. Neuroscientific studies have identified the role of the frontal lobe in contributing to personality, emotions, judgment, problem solving, abstract thought, attention, and planning. One distinct function found in the frontal lobe is speech, thanks to Broca’s area. The parietal lobe and the occipital lobe are each involved in interpretation. The parietal lobe contributes to interpreting language, visual signals, and spatial perception whereas the occipital lobe hosts our visual cortices. The temporal lobe includes Wernicke’s area, a key part of the brain for understanding language. The temporal lobe also hosts our auditory cortex and is therefore key for hearing.
Neurotransmitters are responsible for one of three functions: either exciting, inhibiting, or modulating neurons. Most neurobiological disorders are due to fluctuations in these levels. These disorders can also be caused by issues in the ways that neurotransmitters are sent or received. Fluctuations can be caused by over or under-production of neurotransmitters. They can also be caused by damage to the neurons themselves. (~Quoted from Emotives®)