Parenting can be tricky business

Parent's troubles= Children's troubles

By 6 or 7 months old, our psyche has engrained compensation patterns.

This formula doesn't necessarily make us complete train wrecks as parents or children but we can be affected by the moments we didn't feel the support we needed to learn to steady ourselves in daily life.

Our parents distorted their own development for their parents needs.

They have been victims of others' needs and misunderstandings for at least 20 or 30 years before they had children.

It's hard for parents to value a need in their child when they haven't had that need met in themselves.

These places we are missed in can leave confusion in our brain that can result in misfires when we are older. They might come in the form of accidents, communication problems, learning challenges, panic and anxiety or confusion just to name a few.

We want to learn to identify the double binds we have with our parents. Where have we given ourselves up for our parents needs?

Stay tuned for the next date of my upcoming, online workshop.

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